Whiny Little Pussy Boy Article
My Comments:
I read this and I have to be honest. I needed hip waders just to get through the level of pathetic cow poop in it. Today's common man is a little boy dressed up in a man suit. Unfortunately it's Halloween 365 days a year here in the USA for the male species. No guys I am not a man hating (insert expletive here). I actually believe in men, real men like my grandfather's who had no more then an 8th grade education but still spoke more then one language, never abandoned their wives emotionally, mentally or financially and could hold a decent conversation about something more then their chosen field or their favorite sports teams. Men who didn't need porn, the UFC or extra marital affairs to know they had a set below their belt.
Today's men are cowards. They hide in miserable marriages with women they don't respect and use their children for an excuse to stay when the love has left. Their women rather then respecting them, listen to a gay, African American woman and her balding, middle aged marionette on how to solve the problems in their relationship.
But men aren't really the ones to blame here. It's women. Most of us accept the mediocrity of the average American male and we ascribe to society's idea of who we should be. We hide our sexuality as if it were a curse and any women who doesn't is still frowned upon and not respected by both men as well as women. All in all most of today's men were raised by over bearing, undersexed, degrading mothers who hated the fact that they were forced to either be independent and shunned or dependent on men and socially accepted. Let's face it today's man was born into a transitional period as were today's women. Women: Men cheat for two reasons 1)The guy is a dog and if you aren't smart enough to figure that out it's your fault. Stop being stupid over love and grow some confidence. 2) You aren't satisfying him in bed. Get over your sexual hangups and try something new. Harness your sexual power and prowess and men will be forced to act like men around you and not horny teenage boys. Men: All of you grow up. This article is an exact example of how much the American male has become a whiny little (insert expletive here). As I stated before men need to turn off the TV, take an interest in local politics, laws and the things that effect them rather then sitting on their fannies, while playing fantasy football and writing pathetic articles about how life is so unfair to them and how women who have openly fought for a place in society have now usurped their authority.(News flash boys - It wasn't that hard. God gave you two heads and only enough blood to work one at one time fortunately us women don't have that problem) ~.o
But men aren't really the ones to blame here. It's women. Most of us accept the mediocrity of the average American male and we ascribe to society's idea of who we should be. We hide our sexuality as if it were a curse and any women who doesn't is still frowned upon and not respected by both men as well as women. All in all most of today's men were raised by over bearing, undersexed, degrading mothers who hated the fact that they were forced to either be independent and shunned or dependent on men and socially accepted. Let's face it today's man was born into a transitional period as were today's women. Women: Men cheat for two reasons 1)The guy is a dog and if you aren't smart enough to figure that out it's your fault. Stop being stupid over love and grow some confidence. 2) You aren't satisfying him in bed. Get over your sexual hangups and try something new. Harness your sexual power and prowess and men will be forced to act like men around you and not horny teenage boys. Men: All of you grow up. This article is an exact example of how much the American male has become a whiny little (insert expletive here). As I stated before men need to turn off the TV, take an interest in local politics, laws and the things that effect them rather then sitting on their fannies, while playing fantasy football and writing pathetic articles about how life is so unfair to them and how women who have openly fought for a place in society have now usurped their authority.(News flash boys - It wasn't that hard. God gave you two heads and only enough blood to work one at one time fortunately us women don't have that problem) ~.o
And of course one of the masses of blindly ignorant people attacks me on my verbiage that was used to prove a point:
Rosanna Reynoso:
Jayme, what the fuck does Oprah's race and alleged sexuality have to do with this? Are you saying that woman shouldn't listen to her because she's black and might enjoy the company of women?
Me:
Yes, I will affirm to the statement that a person's ethnic back ground, financial situation, sexuality, religion and culture can skew their advice and views on life. And yes - I personally don't think that any straight woman, specifically middle classed should be following the advice of a rich lesbian on how handle their relationships unless she has her certifications in psychology. I will be damned if a former beauty pageant winner who has banked on her own childhood trauma to gain recognition and sympathy and majored in communications in college is going to tell me how I should handle my life. Just as I would not give advice to any of my gay male friends on dating - I have no clue because I could never be in their situation. I do take issue with her because she feeds on women's insecurities, she hid her sexuality for a long time from the public and still continues to try to do so. Women are stupid enough to let her pick their books they read, decide what to buy for themselves and whether or not they should stay with their partners. It's idiotic. And if you knew anything about the Oprah empire you would know that Dr. Phil was brought in as a major part of her show and then given his own publicity to gain the support from the southern states where she has lower ratings. One more way for her to make money on the women who aren't smart enough to realize all her "charity" actually makes her money due to tax right offs, sales and endorsements. Her altruistic demeanor is no more then good business tactics. But I would expect that response from most Americans. Most American's enjoy a good helping of denial and bullshit as long as it's piled in a pretty manner and is positioned downwind. Rosanna Reynoso:
I think I get what you're saying... Blacks should only take advice from Blacks, Gays from Gays, etc, etc... interesting... bigoted, nasty, homophobic... but interesting.
Me:
LMAO As a bisexual woman who has dated men and women from almost every culture, economic and religious back ground that exists I will state this: When I was 16 over the summer from my sophomore year to my junior year of high school I lost about 50 pounds on a liquid diet. I went from 180 pounds to about 130 pounds. Men that I used to be friends with who respected my mind suddenly stop talking to me and started trying to put their hands all over me.
I did a lot of soul searching because I knew they were fixated on my outward appearance and not who I was internally. It made me very sad that men who once respected me saw me as nothing more then a piece of meat. I made a decision at that point in my life that I would never determine the level of intimacy I had with any one to be based by their psychical being. Unfortunately most people's life shaping experiences that determine who they are internally are derived from how the world views them which is primarily external. I don't traditionally date women because most succumb to societies expectations of them. I like people who can think for themselves. I hate Oprah because instead of making women stronger she has changed their dependency for security. Rather then looking toward their friends, family and loved ones for good advice that has concern and love behind it, she gives these generalized summations and women blindly follow it. I can state that people need to be mindful of the positioning of the advice. That a southern African American woman who grew up being economically oppressed, having been molested at an early age by a man and who only over came obstacles by using her body in the most socially acceptable form of degradation to women - a beauty pageant. That her advice and efforts might not be as earnest and certainly would be far from what most other people in a similar situation to your own might be if they had even a modicum of knowledge about your personal situation. I said I find it idiotic that women allow it to happen. I point out her race and sexuality because if it were any one else from that race or sexuality I find it hard to believe that most women would take a black lesbian's advice on these things but they take it from Oprah. But they do because she has made a name for herself using her personal trauma, her ethnicity and her back ground as a stepping stone to gain respect from the general public and earned money from it. Oprah is a lie. She is an angry woman who is set out to prove that she can control the male establishment in the US through manipulating their wives, daughters and mothers. In the house holds that wouldn't let her in due to real racism, homophobia and bigotry she sent in a good old southern white boy complete with drawl to do her dirty work. You didn't think Dr. Phil was an accidental discovery did you? Lol
I will also remind you that calling people hateful names is seriously ignorant especially when you have no clue to whom you are speaking to. I am sure some of my exes on my face book page will get a chuckle out of the bigoted comments and god knows most of my GLBT friends will fall over laughing about me being homophobic. But don't worry as I stated before I am used to that level of ignorance in people, most people aren't able to have an educated discussion that have differing opinions with out resorting to primal measures such as name calling.
I did a lot of soul searching because I knew they were fixated on my outward appearance and not who I was internally. It made me very sad that men who once respected me saw me as nothing more then a piece of meat. I made a decision at that point in my life that I would never determine the level of intimacy I had with any one to be based by their psychical being. Unfortunately most people's life shaping experiences that determine who they are internally are derived from how the world views them which is primarily external. I don't traditionally date women because most succumb to societies expectations of them. I like people who can think for themselves. I hate Oprah because instead of making women stronger she has changed their dependency for security. Rather then looking toward their friends, family and loved ones for good advice that has concern and love behind it, she gives these generalized summations and women blindly follow it. I can state that people need to be mindful of the positioning of the advice. That a southern African American woman who grew up being economically oppressed, having been molested at an early age by a man and who only over came obstacles by using her body in the most socially acceptable form of degradation to women - a beauty pageant. That her advice and efforts might not be as earnest and certainly would be far from what most other people in a similar situation to your own might be if they had even a modicum of knowledge about your personal situation. I said I find it idiotic that women allow it to happen. I point out her race and sexuality because if it were any one else from that race or sexuality I find it hard to believe that most women would take a black lesbian's advice on these things but they take it from Oprah. But they do because she has made a name for herself using her personal trauma, her ethnicity and her back ground as a stepping stone to gain respect from the general public and earned money from it. Oprah is a lie. She is an angry woman who is set out to prove that she can control the male establishment in the US through manipulating their wives, daughters and mothers. In the house holds that wouldn't let her in due to real racism, homophobia and bigotry she sent in a good old southern white boy complete with drawl to do her dirty work. You didn't think Dr. Phil was an accidental discovery did you? Lol
I will also remind you that calling people hateful names is seriously ignorant especially when you have no clue to whom you are speaking to. I am sure some of my exes on my face book page will get a chuckle out of the bigoted comments and god knows most of my GLBT friends will fall over laughing about me being homophobic. But don't worry as I stated before I am used to that level of ignorance in people, most people aren't able to have an educated discussion that have differing opinions with out resorting to primal measures such as name calling.
Rosanna Reynoso:
Pulling out the old "I have gay friends! I can't be a homophobe!". lol
Listen, when you say "don't take this woman's advice because she's a lesbian", that's homophobia. When you say "don't listen to this woman's advice because she's black", that's racism. I'm not name-calling. I'm just using words correctly.
Me:Listen, when you say "don't take this woman's advice because she's a lesbian", that's homophobia. When you say "don't listen to this woman's advice because she's black", that's racism. I'm not name-calling. I'm just using words correctly.
No not friends with I am part of the GBLT community darling. I am bisexual and while most people don't like to lump me into that and want to believe I am like most women - that it's a phase, 20+ years of living like this would disagree with that thought process.
My Exact Words Were: Their women rather then respecting them, listen to a gay, African American woman and her balding, middle aged marionette on how to solve the problems in their relationship.
I Went On To Say: And yes - I personally don't think that any straight woman, specifically middle classed should be following the advice of a rich lesbian on how handle their relationships unless she her certifications in psychology.
I Also Went On To Say: Rather then looking toward their friends, family and loved ones for good advice that has concern and love behind it, she gives these generalized summations and women blindly follow it. I can state that people need to be mindful of the positioning of the advice. That a southern African American woman who grew up being economically oppressed, having been molested at an early age by a man and who only over came obstacles by using her body in the most socially acceptable form of degradation to women - a beauty pageant. That her advice and efforts might not be as earnest and certainly would be far from what most other people in a similar situation to your own might be if they had even a modicum of knowledge about your personal situation. I said I find it idiotic that women allow it to happen. I point out her race and sexuality because if it were any one else from that race or sexuality I find it hard to believe that most women would take a black lesbian's advice on these things but they take it from Oprah.
I Also Stated: I do take issue with her because she feeds on women's insecurities, she hid her sexuality for a long time from the public and still continues to try to do so. Women are stupid enough to let her pick their books they read, decide what to buy for themselves and whether or not they should stay with their partners. It's idiotic.
In Summation: I personally wouldn't take her advice because she is not qualified. I find it sad and pathetic that because of her name people take her advice blindly rather then securing themselves to the people who matter most in their lives. Considering that most women who watch her are white as well as middle classed and I would venture to guess that if you asked them if they would take relationship advice from an African American Lesbian with out it being Oprah most would decline to answer or say no. If most of her viewers probably wouldn't take advice from any unqualified person who has no concept of their personal back ground or situation because they haven't lived in it then why her?
So my question to you is why are you so angry over a few simple words? I used them to make a point, most writers do. I will not apologize for being honest, provocative or placing terminology with in piece I wrote which was intended to be thought provoking that might be politically incorrect. Because it seems you are hung up on me being homophobic and racist. While you are at it might as well call me an economic snob for the rich comment about her also or did that not hit any of your hot buttons? Please if you are going to attack me for being politically incorrect at least have the courtesy to be consistent in your attacks. When I write, I do so to elicit people to wake up and see things from a different prospective. Are you really not intelligent enough to see my positioning and purpose in what I wrote?
Rosanna Reynoso:My Exact Words Were: Their women rather then respecting them, listen to a gay, African American woman and her balding, middle aged marionette on how to solve the problems in their relationship.
I Went On To Say: And yes - I personally don't think that any straight woman, specifically middle classed should be following the advice of a rich lesbian on how handle their relationships unless she her certifications in psychology.
I Also Went On To Say: Rather then looking toward their friends, family and loved ones for good advice that has concern and love behind it, she gives these generalized summations and women blindly follow it. I can state that people need to be mindful of the positioning of the advice. That a southern African American woman who grew up being economically oppressed, having been molested at an early age by a man and who only over came obstacles by using her body in the most socially acceptable form of degradation to women - a beauty pageant. That her advice and efforts might not be as earnest and certainly would be far from what most other people in a similar situation to your own might be if they had even a modicum of knowledge about your personal situation. I said I find it idiotic that women allow it to happen. I point out her race and sexuality because if it were any one else from that race or sexuality I find it hard to believe that most women would take a black lesbian's advice on these things but they take it from Oprah.
I Also Stated: I do take issue with her because she feeds on women's insecurities, she hid her sexuality for a long time from the public and still continues to try to do so. Women are stupid enough to let her pick their books they read, decide what to buy for themselves and whether or not they should stay with their partners. It's idiotic.
In Summation: I personally wouldn't take her advice because she is not qualified. I find it sad and pathetic that because of her name people take her advice blindly rather then securing themselves to the people who matter most in their lives. Considering that most women who watch her are white as well as middle classed and I would venture to guess that if you asked them if they would take relationship advice from an African American Lesbian with out it being Oprah most would decline to answer or say no. If most of her viewers probably wouldn't take advice from any unqualified person who has no concept of their personal back ground or situation because they haven't lived in it then why her?
So my question to you is why are you so angry over a few simple words? I used them to make a point, most writers do. I will not apologize for being honest, provocative or placing terminology with in piece I wrote which was intended to be thought provoking that might be politically incorrect. Because it seems you are hung up on me being homophobic and racist. While you are at it might as well call me an economic snob for the rich comment about her also or did that not hit any of your hot buttons? Please if you are going to attack me for being politically incorrect at least have the courtesy to be consistent in your attacks. When I write, I do so to elicit people to wake up and see things from a different prospective. Are you really not intelligent enough to see my positioning and purpose in what I wrote?
I was angry because I hate racism and homophobia. I now understand that you used racist and homophobic language to make a "provocative" point. I don't understand how using inflammatory language gets any point across. I think it's an unnecessary distraction, but, I guess this is why I don't watch Glenn Beck.
I don't hate classism as much but I am working on that.
I was attacking your statements, not you. As you've already stated, I don't know you.
Over All... I didn't pursue it any further my friend Brian went on to make a few key points. He was the original poster of the link to the article. I found some of his comments to be poignant.
Brian Stinga's Comments:
This blog post and the website that inspired it (http://bit.ly/brCOMO) were designed to give insight into the lives of modern men. Each generation has their own set of struggles, and this just shares stories of those from the present.
It's obvious that a man with only an 8th grade education who is multi-lingual, loyal to his wife and knowledgeable of world and current events is truly an admirable and respectable man. On the flipside, any man who is dependent on porn, drugs or extra marital affairs is obviously struggling with serious issues and not due the respect or admiration that 'real' men achieve.
If you are always comparing the pathetic/insecure men to the extraordinary ones, then yes, they'll always be cowards, little boys and dogs.
However, these two groups only encompass a small percentage of the upper and lower echelon of men.
The majority of men fall somewhere in between. The 'common' man.
They might have a college education but only speak one language.
They enjoy fantasy football and watching UFC, but also are loyal to and supportive of their wives and families.
They have some traits of and desire to be extraordinary men, but might also on occasion succumb to issues that affect the pathetic men, yet, are still not cowards, little boys or dogs by nature.
This blog and website are designed with these men in mind, with the point being to share potentially helpful knowledge that could help the common man become an extraordinary one.
The same goes for women and Oprah.
I know a LOT of people who hate her also because of how she flaunts her money and power around and what her supposed true motivation is, but her fame and popularity were not achieved because of her timeslot or charitable donations, it was because women watched her, learned something they found to be insightful, and then spread the word to other women.
Just like in "The Tipping Point," once a few key people find out about an idea/product/concept, they share it and it spreads like wildfire. She is obviously no real authority on anything, yet, viewers found something in her shows or books that helped them, so they shared it.
This makes the underlying reality pretty clear - you don't need to be certified or qualified or experienced in some specific field in order to share advice you think could help someone.
That is, nobody in either case here is trying to be the ultimate authority on self-help or relationships, but the true worth in Oprah and this blog and website is in the spreading of knowledge and stories that can potentially help a lot of people.
There's an infinite number of ways to break down disparities, point out flaws and disprove arguments, but I think we need to just appreciate it all for the potential positive effect they can have on so many lives.
My Retort to Brian's Statement:
We have become a nation of suckling infants on the teats of advertising media whores. We let them tell us who to vote for, what to feed our children and how to wipe our asses. Are there exceptions? Yes, but I still remember a time when things were not the way they are today and people were more rich in culture and lived life for all it was worth. When people love people and used things not loved things and used people. When the value of a man was not his bank statement but his honor, respect, intelligence and pride in his community.
We have become a nation of suckling infants on the teats of advertising media whores. We let them tell us who to vote for, what to feed our children and how to wipe our asses. Are there exceptions? Yes, but I still remember a time when things were not the way they are today and people were more rich in culture and lived life for all it was worth. When people love people and used things not loved things and used people. When the value of a man was not his bank statement but his honor, respect, intelligence and pride in his community.
Unfortunately most men these days have lost their innate ability to continue to better themselves. The same can be said for some women, however women due to lack of male participation in raising children and the divorce rate have been forced to become more educated in order to provide for their offspring. While there will always be exceptions to the rule and not to diminish the great female world leaders and innovators, men have traditionally set the pace for expectations within our social structure. It is distressing to see the level of complacency in most men these days. What makes the situation even more unbearable is the amount of animosity men show for women who do excel.
I have to be honest my positioning on this comes from the fact that as I have dated I am appalled at the level of ignorance that is out there. In this area I have met too many men who were more concerned with sports scores then their local government and the financial future of our nation. Brian, men like my grandfathers used to be the rule and not the exception. Finding educated men such as yourself to have a decent conversation with is damn near hard to find. You must trust me on this Brian when I say; are there good men who don't cheat yes, but again where it used to be the rule it is now the exception. Most men are more concerned about the head between their legs today then they are about the one on their shoulders. Outside of work environments where they are forced to act with honor and decorum men have lost most of their social graces.
Society's pendulum has begun to swing wildly. Women are empowered. We no longer need men for anything. Medical technology has made it so that if there were a life ending disease that killed all male humans tomorrow the human race would survive and life would go on. The same can not be said for women. I want to thank all the men who cheapen their only God given creation tool by donating to sperm banks thus making this possible.
My point is men need to start paying attention to how their own actions effect them as well as the society they live in. They need to start taking on the blame instead of deflecting it on to women. We are merely doing what women have always done; doing what we are told.
My problem with women is that they are letting wrong people lead them. Oprah being one of the biggest and worst contributors to this bad advice era. Are there good things that come from her show? Yes but if you throw enough shit at any wall eventually some of it will stick. People in general need to stop feeding on media and start thinking for themselves. We need to fore go what society considers normal and acceptable and begin to rebuild our nation as well as our family structure through hard work and effort.
It is easy to give up or to think that some mountains are too hard to climb. What if our ancestors had given up on their American dream? What would our lives look like now?
It is all about focus Brian. People like my grandfathers and grandmothers didn't seek out some twat's advice on an afternoon fluff show, they sure as hell didn't go around blaming and suing people for their ills. They looked at the situation and the found a solution. When they needed help they called on the people they loved and trusted. If it was hard they applied some good old-fashioned elbow grease and got it done. It was this level of tenacity that allowed them to follow through with the commitments in their marriages as well as other important relationships.
I will end in asking you this: If men who historically have been the protectors, hunters and leaders of society are not longer filling that role and women have taken the reins what the hell are all of you good for?
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