1. No real substance to the profile
Most online dating sites offer you space to write something about yourself, what you are seeking etc. Any man who doesn't take time to fill that out but states he is seeking something serious is a serious liar. If he can't put a modicum of effort into writing about himself or what he wants chances are that is the level of commitment you will get from him in a relationship - zilch.
2. Lights, Camera, What about the Fucking Picture?
Any man with out a photo is hiding something or doesn't like the way he looks. 9 times out of 10 a guy who has pictures but won't put them up on a dating website is married or attached. If he doesn't have enough confidence to put up pictures then keep walking - men like that are as loyal as their options darling. Also be weary of guys who have caps on (no hair) or they think they are "gangsta," no real pictures just photos of themselves in a car or in a bathroom (they either have no life or they don't want some one to recognize them from real life photos they took), the one picture wonder (come on you are how many decades old and you have one recent picture of yourself?) and any of the following: pictures of their car, house, with other women, with their shirt off etc etc any thing tactless or tasteless (chances are this feeds into other areas of their life or they are insecure about their "manhood")
3. Any Guy Contacting You That Lives More Then 50 Miles Away
Any man that lives outside your normal range of driving that contacts you is either potentially desperate or a scam artist. And unless he is amazing - good looking, great stats etc etc etc and is willing to come to you for the first couple of dates-shit can him at the website.
4. Any Man With More Obligations Then He Can Afford
I have gotten hit on by men who made less then $30k a year and had 3 or more children with another woman or women. No offense but assholes like that need to put their cock back in their pants and pay for their kids before they try to hook up and make another one. I have also met men who were emotionally obligated. If a man approaches you and is still attached to his mother (living with mommy is a big no no after 25), an ex-girlfriend or female best friend (oh you say she's just a friend, yes you say she's just a friend) Guess what darling you will always be number 2,3,4 or 5 in this man's life. Remember if you are going to give up your freedom for one man make sure he is worth it and don't waste your time on the Monkeys; They can't let go of the last vine till they cling to the next one ~.o. Put all of these guys in the "friend" category and move on sister.
5. Any Man Who Tries To Rush the Dating Process
This world is a scary, fucked up place. As my friend Mike says, "Necrophilia, pedophilia and bestiality aren't illegal because women are sick it is because some men will do just about anything in regards to sex when they have no moral compass." Any man who doesn't think you are worth waiting to meet and get to know isn't looking for anything long term. Chances are he wants to 4F you (find you, fondle you, fuck you, forget you). Even worse when men know they can control your actions especially in the beginning of a relationship the manipulation will only get worse from there on out. Worst case scenario is this is not a safe person to be with. Leave him at the keyboard - there are 8billion people in the world and half of them have cocks, if you are lucky you will meet one that only has one and isn't one too boot.
6. Any Man Who has Discrepancies from His Profile to What He Tells You When You Are Talking
This is a clear cut liar. I would suggest keeping his profile up in the browser while chating or imming with him. Ask him pertinent questions about some of the things he has written with out sounds accusing. If it seems like he doesn't seem like his profile portrays him, kindly tell him you must go and then block him. There is truth to Liar Liar pants on fire - means that men will say anything they think you want to hear because they are hot under the belt!
7. Men Who Log Into The Site Every Day
This is a sign they either have no life or they are a consummate player looking for their next piece of ass. Most sites will tell you how often men log in. Most sites also tell you when and if they looked at your profile. If you are at the point where you are chating outside the dating site via aim, yahoo etc and/or you have met but he is still logging in every day and not checking you out, it means there is some one else he is looking at. Ladies never make a man a priority when you are simply an option to him. When the right man comes along he will only have eyes for you. Don't settle for anything less, remember you deserve and should demand better.
8. Any Man Who Doesn't Earn Enough To Sustain A Family
Do I believe in women's Lib? Hell Yeah! But I also believe in man's responsibility as well. If a man wants to be the head of a household and have a family, it is a luxury he should be able to afford. I do not believe that women should settle for a man who can not earnestly take care of obligations he wants and desires with out the assistance of a woman. Quite often people use the expression "eyes bigger then your stomach" when referring to food. I have often met men whose "dreams were more then their wallet could afford." I believe a man's earnings are in direct proportion to his efforts in education and pursuit of dreams. If a man has passed the age of 30 and is still making less then $50k a year, he will most likely never be able to afford a house or family with out your income and chances are if you decide you want out at some point you won't be able to afford it. Dating is just like fishing; throw the small ones back or use them as bait to catch the big fish. ~.o
9. Sexual or Stupid Handles
Any man who has LUVSEMBIG, WEIRDO101 or MOMMASBOI as his profile handle just keep going. If they message you click the block button. I always ask the men who contact me how they pick their profile name. This is the best chance to get some insight into how they think. If it is anything childish, immature or perverted - you are better then that, no scraping the bottom of the barrel. Remember ladies these profiles are a reflection of how men act in real life. If you find the profile or their messages rude, sophomoric or over all beneath your intelligence level; be brave and remember there are plenty of better men out there don't settle!
10. Any Man Who Can Not Make Decent Conversation Over the Internet
If the guy doesn't have anything to say or talk about and/or he can't even peak your interest on line - it doesn't get better in real life. Chances are it will be worse. There is also a chance that he just doesn't care and that is more dangerous then worse. It is a sign of a loser and a user. As the old saying goes don't settle for some one you can live with, hold out for some one you can't live with out.
Best advice I can give to all women who are still single and even some of you who are in relationships: Think about your freedom. If you were asked to sell it tomorrow, what price tag would you put on it? How much do you think would be a fair offer for the trade to do as you please with your life? Once you come up with a number in your head, keep it there. Every time you meet a potential mate think about whether or not you would trust him with that amount of money. Until you find a man worth that level of trust do not make a commitment to any one but yourself and keep your freedom. Too many women in this day and age settle and it hurts our society. We allow men to behave in manners that we find deplorable for the sake of security and company. We trade it all in for the hope of a ring, a white dress and stale cake being mushed in our face. Truth is we don't need men, they do, however, need us, always remember that. If you act like a prize men will treat you as such. Never settle for anything less then what you are worth. The only way we will get men to change how they treat us in this world is if we band together in sisterhood and stop accepting mediocrity. God Bless ~.o
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