Boys are fragile in ego as well as mind and they need to be needed rather then wanted. They gravitate toward women they feel superior to and thus they can impress. Men are secure in their manhood and position in life. They therefore seek out women who impress them thus adding to the quality of their life rather then seeking an adoring fan. If a guy chooses a lesser woman over you don't sweat it or wonder why, it's simply because he couldn't handle you.
2. Typically men use love to get sex and women use sex to get love.
This is an obvious issue that has plagued humanity for centuries. Although with women becoming more and more independent as a society, we are starting to see a change in this pattern. The modern woman wants to get laid. Quite often accomplished, intelligent women who don't need a man for anything will want them simply to facilitate the aesthetics of having some good sex. Watch out boys you may just find yourself getting kick out of our beds sooner then you'd hoped.
3. Relationships are like stars they either burn hot and fast or slow and long.
How a courtship starts is typically the tone and demeanor of the entire relationship. If you end up in bed on the first date chances are that it is hot and fast and it will end just as quickly as it began. Quite often people value what they have to work for and if a relationship is not easy in the beginning and things such as trust and intimacy are not held to a higher value, that theme will carry through out the relationship.
4. There will always be 4F's (Find him, fondle him, fuck him & forget him)
Now before you get all harsh on me, some men have been doing this to women forever. "There are the girls you fuck and the girls you marry," I have often been told. As women we can easily decide which one we want to be to a man by how quickly we will give in to his desires. Play the game girls. Men love the hunt and the chase. So if you find a great guy; value his friendship first and his cock second. However when you have a man who you know isn't going to be more then just some friendly fun then by all means, get your grove on. Those are the guys you can go home with on night one. Leave it there unless he is amazing in bed, in that case you can keep his number for booty calls.
5. Dating for fun rather then for commitment is the key to Success.
While women love the sense of security that commitment offers, men are skiddish on throwing all their eggs into one basket. Stop thinking about each guy as a potential soul mate. If he is hot go out with him. If he seems funny or he has a good job then go for it. Fuck all the other bullshit ladies. Men have dated women for shallow reasons, always. If you can't beat them, join them.
6. Have a plan B, C, D & E - Always
Men usually have a pair and a spare. They have a couple of girls they want to date and they ask them out first out but if they cancel or are unavailable they have one girl on chill mode. Usually she is less attractive and a home body. They can make tentative plans with her and know she will be home on Saturday night waiting for them to call. I ascribe to the method of non-committal plans until the last minute and then accepting the best offer. Example: Joe says let's go to a party, Brian says I was thinking of taking you to the fair and John wants to do drinks. I don't turn any of them down. My usual stand by line is, "Let me see how I feel after.... (work, the gym, lunch etc) I make all of them my spare. Then I decide what I want to do at the time I am going to do it. If one of my options falls through I always have more.
7. Date like you are Joe Torre from the Yankees
He has a whole team to get the job done, to win the game. He can swap out non performing or injured players as he sees fit. He is in charge of what goes on on the field with his team. Use your guys to your advantage. Need a date for a wedding or a family event? Bring the hot, tanned, toned, financial banker who speaks Russian you have been seeing casually that is great in bed. He will impress the family and make your bed rock like Barny Rubble later. Who cares if he isn't the one? When you don't invite the guy who you might think is; he will sit and wonder why didn't she ask me? Maybe he will even become insecure as to the future of your relationship and just maybe he will buy a ring because he is afraid of losing you.
Which brings me to my next point:
8. Always be the Chicken until he is ready to be the Pig
When making Ham & Eggs the chicken is involved but not committed. The chicken gives part of it's self to the cause but keeps it's life. The pig however has to give up his life in order for the Ham & Eggs to exist. Never make a man a priority when you are still only an option to him. Make him commit first, let him lead the way.
9. Know your own value and keep the price tag
I am going to be really candid here with some of my life experience ladies. Having been both a Dominatrix as well as a phone sex operator I know what men will pay for the company of a woman. Even if she is beating his ass with a leather belt he will not only shell out the cash, but thank you for it as well. While no woman wants to consider herself or her company as being bought and paid for in cold hard cash, consider this statement: Your freedom and life style, how much is it worth to you if you had to pay to keep it? What ever that number is keep it locked away in your mind and bring it to the fore front every time a man wants to alter who you are as a person. Men are hunters and gathers. They by their very nature will try to enrapture you and woo you into submission. Do Not Settle.
10. God gave men two heads and only enough blood to run one at one time.
I love this line. I believe it is from Robin Williams. Use this aspect of a man's dysfunctional anatomy to your advantage. If men are too horny and fixated on what is between their legs, play with them like the lesser creatures they are. When you find a good man who thinks with the head on his shoulders, reward him for being the exception to the rule.
All in all, as women we can always tell the difference between fine china and paper plates. We would never jeopardize our favorite family heirloom patterns by treating them carelessly. Nor would we cry over having to throw away a pixie plate once it was soiled and no longer usable. So why ladies do we do this in our relationships with men? Several reasons, most of which revolve around the insecurities that society tries to embed into us at an early age. Stop living in the fear ladies and step out into an amazing new world that belongs to you.
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